Why Your Ex Left

Module 11: Why You Keep Attracting The Same Type of Person Over and Over Again

There’s a REASON you attracted the person you did

I’m not going to dive into any beliefs about soulmates or any of that jazz here.

You can keep whatever existing beliefs you have about soulmates (or lack thereof)

While I have my own set of beliefs about this topic, there’s really no way of knowing whether they exist or not.

But what I DO know for sure is this:

Whether you believe this person was a soulmate or not, there’s a REASON you were attracted to them.

And there’s a reason they were attracted to YOU

There’s SOMETHING that brought you together.

That something can be conscious… or it can be unconscious.

If you’ve attracted several partners like this and you’re not happy with the kind of relationship you had with them, it’s probably happening UNCONSCIOUSLY

If that’s the case, you need to stop and examine WHY you keep attracting this type of person.

Or rather, why you keep being ATTRACTED to this type of person.

Until you TRULY stop and learn from it, you will continue to attract (and be attracted to) the same type of person.

There’s a great quote by a famous psychologist named Carl Jung that says:

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” ― C.G. Jung

Until you get clear on the underlying patterns and characterisits that keep causing this to happen, you will continue to experience the exact same thing that you’re experiencing right now.

And you will likely continue to blame other people for this experience, moaning and groaning about how “all men are ____ ” or “all women are ______”

In reality, you are simply picking all the men and women that are _____ (fill in the blank)

The truth of the matter is that there’s a bunch of different “types” out there.

(And there’s a type that will invalidate just about every assumption you have about the opposite gender!)

So the question isn’t WHY you keep attracting the same type, but rather, why you keep CHOOSING the same type of person for yourself.

You have a CHOICE about who you decide to

You just seem to keep attracting and choosing the same “type”

So rather than moaning and groaning about it and allying all your friends and family to reinforce your victim mentality, do the hard and conscious work to explore the underlying reason for WHY this happens and you will finally be FREE from this pattern.

Whining about the pattern doens’t end it. It only perpetuates it.

You have to go deeper and find the SECONDARY PAYOFF that you get from choosing this kind of partner.

And you also have to decide, once and for all – that you truly deserve better.

That you will no longer tolerate this kind of behavior in your partners or in your relationships.

This will act as a “sensor” and “guard rail” in your relationships

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