Men aren’t generally known for initiating conversations about their relationships. They don’t seem too interested in the topics that women usually talk about.
So, when they decide they want to break up, it seems quite sudden to the woman. But in reality they’ve probably been thinking about it for quite awhile.
If a man decides he wants to end a relationship, this decision may happen in his head long before he actually takes action on it. In the meantime, he may start acting out of character and quite different from the man you fell in love with.
Until a man gets enough courage to tell you it’s over, you’re somewhat left in the dark and constantly left to guess what’s going on with them. But the signs are there.
You just need to know what to look for.
Men tend to be quiet when they’re uncomfortable around certain people. You’ve probably noticed he doesn’t talk about his day like he used to or divulge much information about his life in general anymore. When you’re in his company, he gets very quiet. But as soon as his cell phone rings and he answers, his personality and charm pop back to life and he’s suddenly his old self again.
At first, he text you about everything, but now you’re lucky if you get one text a day. Men usually text on a whim about whatever they’re feeling or thinking at the time. Once this stops, it indicates you’re no longer in his thoughts or priority one. Does he talk to you as if you’re a stranger on the phone? This is a red flag that he’s probably already moved on, at least in his mind.
Several men love their jobs and go the extra mile in an effort to further their career. We’re not talking about those men. We’re talking about men who voluntarily take on more work and longer hours just so they can avoid seeing less of you. Hurts, doesn’t it? You’ll notice the change in them as compared to their previous behavior.
If your man is constantly coming up with excuses, especially sports-related ones, about why he’s too busy to have sex with you, that’s an even bigger red flag. Men are programmed to think about sex and want sex practically anytime, anywhere. So, if he’s consistently turning you down, something has changed, and not for the better.
When you two first got together, he couldn’t wait to introduce to his friends and family. But if he’s going out with his friends more frequently now and leaving you at home while he’s out doing whatever, he probably wants the two of you to end. When relationships fall apart, it’s never easy no matter how long you’ve been together, how old you are, or what reasons led to the breakup. It’s just plain hard. How you leave a relationship though will determine the class of person you are.
If it’s truly over, leave with your dignity intact.
There’s something better waiting for you in your future.
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