In this short article, my friend Michael Fiore explains the 3 main reasons men “pull away” from women… even when they seem intensely interested at first.
It Always Starts with a Spark…
Has this ever happened to you?
You meet a guy – maybe online, maybe at the gym, maybe you’re introduced by friends.
And at first, it’s magic.
You feel this incredible spark and have butterflies doing backflips in your stomach.
The way he looks at you, the way he smells, the way you feel in his arms … it’s all incredible.
You go out once or twice and it’s heaven. You feel electricity through your bones when you kiss. You stop it from going further. Or you don’t, and it’s like heaven.
And even though you know it’s foolish (even though you know it’s too soon) that little voice in the back of your mind starts making plans for a happy future you want so very, very much.
And then…
He’s gone.
He stops calling. He stops chasing you. And even if you see him in person that light is gone from his eyes.
And you’re left alone again.
Alone and heartbroken and feeling foolish and angry and wondering…
WHY?
Why do men come on so strong, get your hopes up, make you FEEL like that… only to PULL away when you’re right at the edge of something passionate and connected and wonderful?
I cover this in more detail in my recent video post, but here’s the quick answer:
Men pull away from women for 3 reasons…
Reason 1: The “Rubber Band Effect”
Men often pull away because a woman has the emotional “rubber band” pulled too tight on her side. She comes across as over-invested, over-close and over-eager too soon for his limited emotional software to handle.
Remember, guys want to CHASE a woman and need to feel like he EARNED her if he’s ever going to truly commit to you. Even if you feel like you’re taking things “emotionally slow” you might be triggering his flight instinct without even knowing it.
Reason 2: A Man Chooses
Men pull away because he has more interest in another woman, or his work or his hobbies. Sometimes this means a guy is a “Player” who’s just looking for sex (which is why you need to make a guy work for that first sexual encounter) but other times it’s because a woman hasn’t triggered deep enough attraction in a man to make him CHOOSE to be with her.
Reason 3: The “Big Commitment”…
Here’s a huge mistake many women make in their online dating profiles:
Putting up something like “Must be looking for a serious relationship only.”
As a guy I can tell you that even great men who are ready and willing to be in something “serious” will run for the hills if he thinks he has to “buy the cow” before he’s even had a chance to get to know it. Again, it’s not that he doesn’t “want” a real relationship or that he’s not “ready” for one, it’s that HE has to make the choice…
So, now for the real question…
How do you get that one special guy to want you and only you?
How do you get by his “fear” and make him CHOOSE to be with you and only you?
How do you get the real love and real relationship with a real man that you’ve wanted for so very, very long?
For the answer to that, go watch this special video presentation I’ve put together for you.
It’s called “3 Ways to Make a Man Love You” and it reveals a secret psychological loophole in the male mind that makes a guy fall totally, passionately, overwhelmingly in love with you.
How do you know these “3 Ways” work?
Because they worked on me.
Three years ago I was a “player” who thought I’d never settle down…
Then I met one incredible woman….
Who did these three things…
And made me change my life forever…
An internationally-known relationship expert, Michael Fiore has been called “the best male friend” of tens-of-thousands of women around the world. Michael is a Wall Street Journal and Amazon.com bestselling author, and has appeared on dozens of TV and radio programs, including “The Rachael Ray Show”.
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