1) There’s a REASON you attracted the person you did
I’m not going to dive into the idea of “soulmates” or any of that jazz here.
You can keep whatever existing beliefs you have about soulmates (or the lack thereof)
There’s really no way of knowing whether they do exist or not.
But what I DO know for sure is this:
Whether you believe this person was a soulmate or not, there’s a REASON you were attracted to them.
And there’s a reason they were attracted to YOU
There’s SOMETHING that brought you together.
That something can be conscious… or it can be unconscious.
If you’ve attracted several partners like this and you’re not happy with the kind of relationship you had with them, it’s probably happening UNCONSCIOUSLY
If that’s the case, you need to stop and examine WHY you keep attracting this type of person.
Or rather, why you keep being ATTRACTED to this type of person.
Until you TRULY stop and learn from it, you will continue to attract (and be attracted to) the same type of person.
There’s a great quote by a famous psychologist named Carl Jung that says:
Until you get clear on the underlying patterns that keep causing this to happen, you will continue to experience the exact same thing you’re experiencing right now.
And you will likely continue to blame other people for this experience, moaning and groaning about how “all men are ____ ” or “all women are ______”
In reality, you are simply picking all the men and women that are _____ (fill in the blank)
The truth of the matter is that there’s a bunch of different “types” out there.
(And there’s a type that will invalidate just about every assumption you have about the opposite gender!)
So the question isn’t WHY you keep attracting the same type, but rather, why you keep CHOOSING the same type of person for yourself.
You have a CHOICE about who you decide to
You just seem to keep attracting and choosing the same “type”
So rather than moaning and groaning about it and allying all your friends and family to reinforce your victim mentality, do the hard and conscious work to explore the underlying reason for WHY this happens and you will finally be FREE from this pattern.
Whining about the pattern doens’t end it. It only perpetuates it.
You have to go deeper and find the SECONDARY PAYOFF that you get from choosing this kind of partner.
And you also have to decide, once and for all – that you truly deserve better.
That you will no longer tolerate this kind of behavior in your partners or in your relationships.
This will act as a “sensor” and “guard rail” in your relationships
2) There’s a REASON you two broke up
Once you truly SEE this reason, you’ll be able to start a NEW relationship with your ex
Or if you’ve already decided that you’re moving on without them…
You’ll be able to experience a NEW type of relationship in the future (without any of these problems putting a strain on your relationship)
If you try to get your ex back WITHOUT addressing the things that tore you two apart, you will simply re-enter back into your existing relationship (which clearly wasn’t working for whatever reason).
After all, if it was working and making them happy – they wouldn’t have broken up with you.
So while it may be tempting to do anything you can to get them back, right here, right now, you need to do the work to address the underlying issues in your relationship FIRST.
Otherwise, you’ll just end up in a relationship with someone who’s not happy with how things are.
And if that’s the case, it will only be a matter of time before they leave you again (and that’s not a fun way to live!)
3) There’s also a LESSON for you to learn from this experience
The pain you’re feeling right now is a neccesary stepping stone to learning what wasn’t working in your relationship
If you bought this course, then you probably already realize this.
However, I just wanted to lay it all out there so that you can keep it in mind as you do this courageous, introspective work.
Best wishes in life and love
Kevin